Name at least one antonym for “small”. (Go ahead, I’ll wait. It’s in the title of this blog!)
The opposites I came up with for my list include: enormous, generous, immense, large, huge, gargantuan and, of course, BIG! If Marianne Williamson believes that our playing small does not serve the world, then the opposite of small, that is, “big” is something we need to try on in order to be our best selves. Stepping out of our closets and into the light is mandatory for making an impact, not only for others, but for our own lives. It’s time that we “play big” instead of “playing small”.
Chances are in your favor of doing just that, if you FAIL to step out and give it a go. You might think that you’re simply being humble, conservative or cautious (go ahead, name your reason for not stepping up and out). But the truth is that you are being arrogant by NOT being the biggest and best self that you can be. You were meant for large and wonderful things. To “not shine” is an insult to whatever Higher Power you hold onto.
I recently met up with a high school classmate. Susan and I hadn’t seen each other for 30 years. We sang together in the select choral group in high school. As I remember our time together, we both LOVED to sing and ham it up. Having lost touch with each other, I learned recently about her through mutual Facebook and high school friends. We reconnected briefly at a concert where I learned that she had gone on to an elite college and then proceeded on to high-powered corporate work. But in the midst of her upward, corporate climb, she left her power suits behind and became the singer-songwriter that she had longed to be. It was HER concert where I learned all of this news! She was living her dream.
I tell you this because she sings a song that speaks better than the words on this page about the desire to step beyond what you or others perceive about yourself. The song is aptly titled, “Big”. She sings of her desire to be “big, bigger than a multi-plex movie screen/ Bigger than the old Rolling Stone Magazine/ Seven-foot-three, too big for TV/ I’m telling me how big I’m gonna be, how big I’m gonna be.” She belts out to the world her desire to be her biggest self. She defines “how big [she's] gonna be.” It’s a powerful statement from a woman who stands at 4’10”! Yet after she completes her set, you know that this singer-songwriter is indeed, “seven-foot-three.” She is making her mark in the world and touching many, many lives through her music. It wouldn’t have happened if she had “played small.”
…When you look in the mirror, don’t you want to see the giant of your dreams? Don’t you want to be “brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous”? Don’t you want to be “seven foot three, too big for TV”?
The not-so-secret is that you already are! Psst! You don’t have to whisper…
P.S. And listen here to Susan Greenbaum’s preview track of “Big”! This Life–Susan Greenbaum Get the whole CD. You’ll be off-and-running to your bigger self!